BY REV RON KING
Last evening at the Brookhaven Country Club in Palm Desert, I officiated for the first time a wedding ceremony that incorporated both The 13 Gold Coins Ceremony and the Lasso Ritual. The symbolism of the 13 gold coins in the ceremony was that the groom recognized his responsibility as a provider, and pledged his ability to support and care for his wife. Acceptance by the bride meant taking that trust and confidence unconditionally with total dedication and prudence.
Thirteen gold coins were counted out by the bride’s mother into the groom’s hands. I explained that they represent different values(13 of them) that the couple desires to share between themselves: love, harmony. Co-operation, commitment, peace, happiness, trust, respect, caring, wisdom, joy, wholeness and nurturing. These coins are a symbol of this couple’s mutual love, fidelity and trust.
The Lasso is a wedding ritual in which the couple are bound together with a ceremonial rosary. Lassoing is a declaration of intent, where the bride and groom clearly state that they are marrying of their own free will. Mothers of the bride and groom draped the Lasso in the form of an “8” around the shoulders of the Bride and Groom. Within this Lasso the couple declared their intent to be bound together before their friends and family, and they speak that intent also to God.
An Article By Lucinda Martin of Vows & Kisses Interfaith Wedding Minister
The beautiful thing about an Association of Interfaith Wedding Ministers is the many wonderful ways we support each other. Today, I received a very encouraging email from Rev Ron King, the Vows & Kisses Wedding Officiant serving Palm Springs and Coachella Valley. It makes my heart sing to be witness to Rev Ron’s first couple choosing to include the Coin and Lasso ceremony. And, for him to receive such positive feedback brings joy:
I finalized a wedding ceremony for the third couple that I will officiate for at the Brookhaven Country Club in Palm Desert, CA. Their ceremony includes two “new-to-me” rituals: Thirteen Gold Coins and the Lasso rituals. I worked with information from the Vows & Kisses e-manual, put together these rituals within the context of the wedding ceremony and emailed a draft of the whole service to the couple. Here is what they had to say:
“We have read the first draft of our ceremony and we would like to thank you so much! We are both very pleased with the entire thing…”
Rev. Ron King
The “Arras Coin Ceremony” and “Lasso Ceremony, are both traditional for Catholic Weddings, primarily used in Spain, Latin American counties and the Philippines. Since many couples are choosing outdoor weddings or “non-religious weddings” still wanting to maintain cultural traditions, I have modified these ceremonies to be a bit more “contemporary” while still honoring the sacredness of them.
Some couples (including folks of multi- cultural or non-religious backgrounds) are including the Unity Coin Ceremony to symbolize how they will manage finances as a “team” – an important component of a healthy marriage. Thirteen coins have two symbols; for Christians they represent Jesus and the 12 Apostles and for couples desiring a non-religious ceremony number 13 is the number for a baker’s dozen, symbolizing prosperity.
The Lasso Ceremony is selected by couples wanting to speak their vows within the sacredness of a circle – of a lasso, similar to the “Unity Candle Ceremony” in meaning of a couple being united in marriage, the blending of two families, now becoming one. Couples having a country-wedding theme use a rope, and Catholic interfaith couples select a Rosario, (large rosary made of beads or flowers).
In both rituals, typically the parents, or Best Man/Maid of Honor, or Padrinos have the honor of holding these items and bringing them to the minister when called upon. Some couples have a young person, bring them, similar to a ring bearer. These rituals bring great meaning to a ceremony and in addition to creating golden memories they provide an opportunity for expressive and creative photos.
If you would like more information about these two ceremonies, or other symbolic rituals, visit the “Rituals Page” on the Vows and Kisses website or contact us for more information. We love bringing fresh ideas for couples wanting a custom ceremony, embracing diversity and meaningful rituals.