Lucinda Martin was recently interviewed by KSRO’s Robert Nations of the Aging Matters Show. Click on the podcast to hear her discuss Vows & Kisses, Graceful Mournings and the spiritual companioning and counseling provided by her Associates. The show ends as her calm, warm voice guides listeners into a deep breathing exercise that can be used for stress relief and meditation. Take a deep breath and enjoy the 30 minute podcast!
It’s National Nurses Week! We would like to take a moment to thank nurses for the amazing work they do and for following the call to help, help help! Many of our associate ministers have been or are volunteers in hospitals and senior care facilities and witness the dedication and sacrifices that nurses make. We encourage you to share stories or comments in honor of our special guardians.
My personal thanks go out to the nurse that helped my dear father-in-law as he struggled with an anxiety attack in a Seattle hospital a couple of years ago. He had led an active, healthy lifestyle until he was diagnosed with a rare disease in his seventies. His penchant for traveling to Australian deserts and lone Mexican beaches had ill-prepared him (no pun intended) for disease and hospitals. (Is anyone ever prepared?) One night, after a hospital procedure, he was shaking uncontrollably and in a panic. His nurse seemed to sense what the trouble was and climbed into bed next to him. She wrapped her arms around him and held him while whispering soothing words in Spanish. My father-in-law was finally able to relax and fall asleep. The interactions he had with the nurses and physical therapists were the only thing that kept him sane during those long weeks.
When he speaks about that experience, his gratitude is so palpable that it has spread to the rest of the family. We are eternally grateful for that nurse’s care and kind gestures. Blessings and Happy National Nurses Week!
Join us in attending the Wine Country Wedding Experience Showcase at Trione!
Congratulations on your engagement! Now the exciting part: planning the perfect day! With all of the stresses associated with planning a wedding, a group of women got together to pull our strengths and present to you the perfect Wine Country wedding experience all in one place. In an afternoon, we invite you to meet and speak with an exclusive group of local vendors who work closely together to ease the stresses of planning that special day, while sipping on tasty bubbles from Gloria Ferrer! Our partners will offer exclusive discounts for day of bookings!!
Trione Vineyards & Winery 19550 Geyserville Ave, Geyserville, CA 95441 April 12, 2014 – 10am-3pm Early Bird Special: $20 per couple (or 2 tickets)
• Place: The Conscious Center | 58 Macy Street (Rte. 110) Unit 6C| Amesbury, MA 01913 978.792.5401
• Audience: Any person (ordained or not) who would like to learn how to create a meaningful ceremony and avoid “cake-in-the-face embarrassment”.
• Workshop Outcomes: This will be a fun day of learning with interactive activities and networking. Participants will receive information regarding”
o Steps for Wedding Ceremony Success
o Legal Compliance & Marriage License
o Wedding Officiant Roles & Responsibilities
• Facilitators: Rev. Lucinda Martin, Ordained Interfaith minister and founder of “Vows & Kisses Wedding Officiants” – www.vowsandkisses.com and Pami-Peace Parker, Ordained Interfaith minister and Director of The Conscious Center – www.peaceminister.com
• Recommended Tithe: $65 per person
• To Register (only 15 seats available): Please contact Pami at email@example.com or call The Conscious Center and leave a message: 978.792.5401.
— with Lucinda Martin at The Conscious Center.
Vows and Kisses will be at the Sonoma Wedding Show
Hyatt Vineyard Creek Hotel & Spa
170 Railroad Street, Santa Rosa, CA 95401September 8, 2013 11 a.m. – 4 p.m.
Go to the website to register for free admission
BY LUCINDA MARTIN OF VOWS & KISSES INTERFAITH WEDDING MINISTER
The recent events in Boston have left me feeling quite raw. A bit more emotional this morning, I found myself shedding some tears as I was writing a ceremony for a couple that recently lost a parent, and wanted to include something to honor him.
It is not unusual to counsel couples that are wrestling with the emotions of a wedding celebration while still navigating some grief. I encourage couples to include the element “Remembering Loved Ones”, in the wedding ceremony and allow for the emotions and tears; after all it is a sacred ceremony and a well -crafted ceremony evokes many emotions for the bridal party and the guests. (Make sure to bring tissues for the guests, I suggest.) After “Remembering Loved Ones” and a brief moment of silence, we will “pick up” the energy, with a whimsical or inspirational reading or a fun story of how the couple met or became engaged.
Today, I made some changes to this element that I typically provide as a sample to consider, and felt compelled to share it. I am suggesting that the presence of a loved one that has passed is reflected in the smiles of the guests.
Remembering Loved Ones
“We have learned from an excerpt of, Corinthian’s 13, a bible verse about love; “Love is patient and kind; Love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Love never gives up. Love is eternal. Love never ends.”
We acknowledge the loved ones who surround you now, and the love that never ends from those who were close to you, but are not here today and would rejoice with you if they were. Your love for them and their love for you has no end.
We speak a word in loving remembrance of friends and family unable to be with us here today and know they are sending their love in support of your special day.
We speak a special word in loving remembrance of (Bride/Groom’s relative and name) father, as we see the reflection his loving presence in all the happy faces here today.
We go into silence now, allowing for the loving presence of all our ancestors.”
And, so, in a moment of silence I bless all and send peace to Boston and all of the friends, families and our nation as we are healing.
‘You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty the ocean does not become dirty.”