Book Suggestion by Rev. Lucinda Martin
The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman
Often couples experience a “disconnect” in communication (verbally and physically) as they
are not aware of how each expresses their love and the desired expression of love they wish
to receive. This can be very confusing. I appreciate this book, as it has a simple way of
explaining five ways that people express their feelings of love and appreciation. More often
than not, the giver and the receiver express love in two different ways. This can lead to
misunderstanding and quarrels.
In this book you will learn about the “five love languages”: Quality time, words of affirmation,
gifts, acts of service, and physical touch are the five basic love languages. Dr. Gary
Chapman identifies these and guides couples towards a better understanding of their unique
languages of love. As you learn to speak and understand your mate’s love language, you will
be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return.
This book has also helped me to gain a better understanding of how to relate to my now
adult children, their spouses and my grandchildren. You may find it to be helpful in
deepening your relationships with family and friends as well.
By the way – if you want to express your love to me – send me flowers (or wine).
Book Recommendation: 1001 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married By Monica Mendez Leahy
Blog Article by Rev Lucinda Martin
As Interfaith Ministers providing services as wedding officiants, and funeral-memorial celebrants, we are often called to provide Spiritual Counseling and Spiritual Coaching/Companioning also known as Spiritual Direction. Many couples find it helpful to have a few sessions with their wedding minister prior to their wedding. Some couples choose to begin private sessions after their wedding.
One book I like to recommend to both married and engaged couples is “1001 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married” by Monica Mendez Leahy. It is a rather quick read, easy to navigate and fun for couples to engage in the quizzes and to share with each other.
In addition to being informative and insightful for couples, it serves as an excellent tool for couples to discover topics to bring to their Spiritual Counselor for discussion and exploration.
Enjoy the article below by the author; it provides good information about the book, how to order the book, audiobooks and additional resources. It is also available in Spanish.
I hope you enjoy this and may it serve as a reminder that Vows & Kisses Wedding Ministers are here to support and serve you with Spiritual Companioning. Contact your minister for schedules and fee information.
Warm blessings on your love and relationship
Press Release: 1001 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married By Monica Mendez Leahy
The institution of marriage has been in the national spotlight like never before. Politicians are defining what it means and attempting to shape its parameters. Millions are glued to their television sets to see if total strangers can get together and make it down the aisle. The state of “happily ever after” seems to be on everyone’s mind. Marriage is still meant to honor love, commitment, and lifelong partnership, but it requires dedication and hard truths. Those contemplating marriage need to face tough questions about what it means to be married, their partnerships, their values, and their future. Is marriage the right direction for you and your partner? Are you ready?
Love can be bliss, but marriage takes work. Communication, compromise, and joint decision-making are key ingredients to a successful marriage. Unfortunately, couples often overlook these things when planning a wedding. This book provides pointed questions, hypotheticals, and self-exploratory quizzes that will help individuals define themselves and their goals, find out more about their partners and their goals, in order to reasonably manage matrimonial expectations.
Author and relationship expert Monica Mendez Leahy has helped hundreds of couples explore their common goals and perspectives as well as their unique differences as they prepare for their life journey together. Marriage involves a constant state of maneuvering, change, and honoring differences. From exes and past relationships to pets, raising children, money issues, living together before marriage, and physical intimacy – each person brings his or her own unique set of personality traits and requirements.
1,001 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married brings to the table important issues that will arise in every marriage–including the ones that may blindside you. A variety of fun, interactive formats, including multiple choice, fill-in-the-blank, and hypotheticals, explore fundamental questions about nature, thought processes, lifestyle, and marital expectations.