Saturday, March 8, 2014
• Time: 9:30 a.m. to 4:30 p.m.
• Place: The Conscious Center | 58 Macy Street (Rte. 110) Unit 6C| Amesbury, MA 01913 978.792.5401
• Audience: Any person (ordained or not) who would like to learn how to create a meaningful ceremony and avoid “cake-in-the-face embarrassment”.
• Workshop Outcomes: This will be a fun day of learning with interactive activities and networking. Participants will receive information regarding”
o Steps for Wedding Ceremony Success
o Legal Compliance & Marriage License
o Wedding Officiant Roles & Responsibilities
• Facilitators: Rev. Lucinda Martin, Ordained Interfaith minister and founder of “Vows & Kisses Wedding Officiants” – www.vowsandkisses.com and Pami-Peace Parker, Ordained Interfaith minister and Director of The Conscious Center – www.peaceminister.com
• Recommended Tithe: $65 per person
• To Register (only 15 seats available): Please contact Pami at email@example.com or call The Conscious Center and leave a message: 978.792.5401.
— with Lucinda Martin at The Conscious Center.
Yesterday, “Vows & Kisses” had a tradeshow booth at Wine Country Bride, bridal fair in Sonoma County. I had the great pleasure of meeting and greeting many couples anxious to plan their wedding day and visiting with vendors that have the same passion as ours; offering the best services we can to ensure beautiful wedding ceremonies and receptions.
One couple called that morning asking to schedule a meeting with me in advance. They were nervous they might not have the opportunity to book me for their June wedding, since it falls during peak season and there was a good chance that other couples at the bridal tradeshow would be looking for an officiant for the same day. This couple wanted to meet in person right away, to have the opportunity to interview me, ensuring I would meet their requirements for a wedding officiant. The bride-to-be explained, “We met with other wedding officiants but they just weren’t the right fit. We attended a wedding once that we really liked because it was so personal, not just a ceremony script. And so we are still in search of the right fit.”
A Personalized Ceremony
For this couple, having a custom-created ceremony that tells their story, communicates their love and includes a unique symbolic ritual (not religious – but spiritual), is part of their vision. In addition to their love story and intentions, they may choose to include wedding rituals such as a Wine Box Ceremony and a Hand Blessing.
I admire their desire to take the relationship with their wedding minister seriously. Their ceremony is a priority, not the formality needed as a prerequisite for a beautiful dress and an audacious party. What really intrigued me was their expressed desire (requirement) to meet several times to develop a relationship – “we don’t want to be married by a stranger. We want someone that knows us, understands us.”
My heart was filled with joy, as it confirmed for me the sense that Vows & Kisses Associates will be serving in a very profound way – to help people that are hungry to be fed, spiritually. As Interfaith Ministers, we are well educated and experienced to become the “family minister” or spiritual guide for couples that have no desire to attend traditional churches.
Not all couples desire a Spiritual Guide – and we graciously provide professional ceremonies that are personalized for all of our couples. It is also very apparent to me that many couples desire an interspiritual practice; a personally defined relationship with God, Great Spirit, Divine Mind, Creative Intelligence, (many names for the same expression of Divine Love.) They are looking for ways to be spiritually fed.
This is the “and more” part of our Vows & Kisses logo… wedding officiants and more. We will be sharing many of life’s transitions and rites of passage together: from exploring how this couple defines marriage, their love, and their relationship. After the wedding, I will be there to serve them as a Spiritual Companion – to listen and ask questions, helping them to reveal their answers from within to some of life’s most difficult questions.
Perhaps I will have the honor to create a baby blessing someday: a celebration of new life where family and friends will offer their Vows to love, support and care for the child– sealed with a kiss.
What a fabulous weekend for me and the couples that I was privileged to serve!
For starters, I was hired by a man looking to celebrate his 5th Wedding Anniversary with a surprise Vow Renewal ceremony for his wife. After careful consideration of what to call the ceremony, he changed the “title” to a Re-dedication Ceremony, He wanted a private ritual for just he and his wife and was hoping to not offend any relatives that were not going to be invited in the process. He was hoping that the new term would ease any reaction when word got out what had transpired. During the closing days of the week before the ritual, he disclosed his plan to his wife because they are not in the habit of keeping secrets from each other… How Sweet!
I researched a park that I had been in about four years ago for a photo shoot and found several “perfect” spots in Wellness Park in Palm Springs. Several areas in the small desert-scaped park located near Desert Regional Hospital are quite beautiful including rock formations, plantings, a labyrinth and a small fountain. We choose the fountain and gathered there Friday at dusk. Heartfelt exchanges by husband and wife I their own words and acknowledgement by me for the many things that grace their lives together. I included a poem by Rabindranath Tagore, a prose poem reading from The Prophet about marriage and closed with a John Lennon song, “Grow Old Along with Me”.
And then, on Saturday morning, under a splendid blue sky and at the same park, I meet a male couple that were celebrating their 32nd Anniversary together that day and joined them in marriage. We met at the entrance to the park and proceeded to the same fountain area. The men were joined by six friends and relatives. The two grooms promised “to continue” to honor and love one another. They exchanged rings as well. They had a Breaking of Glasses Jewish Ritual at the end of the short ceremony. “Breaking the glasses” signifies, among other things, that life is fragile and requires a great amount of care if a relationship is to succeed. Family, friends and I concluded the ritual with a traditional “Mazel Tov” ! ["Congratulations And Good Luck!”]
I concluded the ceremony by addressing the power of the agreement they had just made, their love for each other, and the seriousness with which they made this continued commitment. I pronounced them husband and husband which, of course, was followed by kisses!
Rev. Ron King
Palm Springs, CA
Vows & Kisses California Ministers are very excited to be able to continue efforts in support of gay marriages. Reverend Susan Tracy has been busy officiating gay weddings at the State Capital Rose Garden, I just officiated my first legal marriage of two beautiful women at the Palm Event Center, Pleasanton. And, Reverend Ron King officiated the first gay wedding at Indian Wells, in Palm Springs area.
I am personally inspired by Reverend Ron King’s posting, as the wedding couple’s family and friends recognized the beauty and importance of a personalized wedding ceremony. Congratulations Reverend Ron!
“Last evening, I had the pleasure of officiating at the first same-sex wedding held at the IW Club in Indian Wells, CA. The men were from St. Lewis. MO and their guests included people from St. Lewis and the Palm Springs area. One of the grooms is a well-known florist and he created the most amazing and beautiful floral arrangements for the wedding area and the banquet table. The dinner was the best I think I ever had, anywhere.
One of the guests took to the microphone before the dinner began and talked about his relationship with the men and then noted that the wedding ceremony was the most beautiful and meaningful wedding ceremony that he had ever experienced and the 30 guests started to applaud in affirmation. I was a bit overwhelmed (and loved every clap!)”
-Rev. Ron King
Visit Vows and Kisses at this Event!
Vows and Kisses will be at the Sonoma Wedding Show
Hyatt Vineyard Creek Hotel & Spa
170 Railroad Street, Santa Rosa, CA 95401September 8, 2013 11 a.m. – 4 p.m.
Go to the website to register for free admission
PRESENTED BY WINE COUNTRY BRIDE
Vows & Kisses will have a booth at the Wedding Expo at the Wells Fargo Center, Santa Rosa, September 22, 2013, Noon to 5 p.m. Contact us for complimentary passes.
Take a look at the details:
REV RON KING
Gay Californians celebrate today with family, friends and supporters the decision announced by The US Supreme Court overturning Prop 8. The court affirmed the lower district court ruling re. standing. Prop * is now voided. We also celebrate the overturn of the so called Defense of Marriage Act.
Vows and Kisses joins in this celebration, and ministers in this association stand ready to assist couples in the preparation of their wedding ceremonies in California as well as the other 12 states and the District of Columbia that allow same-gendered marriage.
Additionally, this association knows that this news also effects people that do not support same-gendered marriage. We encourage you to keep your hearts open to these changes that you do not support. We acknowledge that this news may have been difficult for you to hear. Individually, our ministers may be available to offer counseling and support if you wish to contact and plan appointment time with them on this or any other topic.
BY REV RON KING
Last evening at the Brookhaven Country Club in Palm Desert, I officiated for the first time a wedding ceremony that incorporated both The 13 Gold Coins Ceremony and the Lasso Ritual. The symbolism of the 13 gold coins in the ceremony was that the groom recognized his responsibility as a provider, and pledged his ability to support and care for his wife. Acceptance by the bride meant taking that trust and confidence unconditionally with total dedication and prudence.
Thirteen gold coins were counted out by the bride’s mother into the groom’s hands. I explained that they represent different values(13 of them) that the couple desires to share between themselves: love, harmony. Co-operation, commitment, peace, happiness, trust, respect, caring, wisdom, joy, wholeness and nurturing. These coins are a symbol of this couple’s mutual love, fidelity and trust.
The Lasso is a wedding ritual in which the couple are bound together with a ceremonial rosary. Lassoing is a declaration of intent, where the bride and groom clearly state that they are marrying of their own free will. Mothers of the bride and groom draped the Lasso in the form of an “8″ around the shoulders of the Bride and Groom. Within this Lasso the couple declared their intent to be bound together before their friends and family, and they speak that intent also to God.
BY LUCINDA MARTIN
However the Supreme Court rules on marriage equality, many emotions from indignation to joy will be heightened. As an Interfaith Minister I am committed to and encourage my associates and people of all religions, agnostic and atheists to deepen our personal, spiritual, practice of prayer and meditation with the intention to support each other with love and compassion. Vows and Kisses Interfaith Wedding Celebrants will continue to solemnize all Unions of Love, inclusive of all faiths, gender-preference, agnostic and atheists.
Love does not discriminate.
We are here to support you.
By Reverend Ron King
I have been preparing a wedding script for my niece and her fiance’ and just recently emailed them a first draft as to read and modify or approve it. At their initial request, I called the groom-to-be “William”. After reading through the ceremony the groom-to-be decided that he really should be called “Billy” as almost everyone calls him by that name.
I discussed this with Rev. Lucinda and she offered a third choice to think about: refer to the groom as “Billy” during the ceremony and use “William” for the formal parts of the wedding, the “I do’s” and the wedding vows. I really liked this idea and presented it to the couple and they are both very happy with this creative alternative.
Now I move on to scripting the wine ceremony which will be my first ritual of this type. I’ll let you know how that goes…